Wondering what the right decision to make is?
You might have been told, "Just trust your intuition." So you sit still and listen. No answers come and you still don't know. Now you're worrying that your inner knowing is not accessible or you're way too ungrounded to get to this place of infinite wisdom. Then you're growling at yourself for not having it more together. You're over it, not knowing what to do is tiring you, you want certainty and you want it now! So you power forward by thinking you're taking control of wishy washy you, and Bang. Decision has happened. No more feeling bad about not knowing, but, was it the right choice for you?
Here's some info I think is super helpful -
Trusting our intuition isn't an instant guarantee for the right answer about what choice to make. Our egocentric human need for certainty can tromp all over a quiet inner feeling that we need to pause, reflect or gather more information.
Brene Brown has told me (not over a cuppa but through her book The Gifts of Imperfection) that "When we just want to get the decision making over with it's a good idea to ask ourselves whether we simply cant stand the vulnerability of being still long enough to think it through and make a mindful decision."
Our intuition isn't always about getting internal answers, it can be telling us we don't know enough to be able to do that. Here's the definition Brene came up with about intuition after her research.
"Intuition is not a single way of knowing - it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we've developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith and reason."
Fear of not knowing can sabotage that quiet inner voice. It can have us asking others for their opinions. Brene says she has now noticed when she starts "polling people" about what they think that it's a red flag that she's feeling vulnerable about making a decision and is disconnected from her inner voice. It can also disempower us as some people feel a need to take control when we do this.
Listen carefully to yourself, sometimes the message from deep within is not to do anything just yet, to have no answer. Gather the information you need, trust Divine timing, allow some time for silence and practise being ok with not knowing, at least for now. Have faith, it's a big call and it feels way stronger than fear.
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