When I think about doing and being I feel the chasm between the two. That makes sense when one heavily outweighs the other. I’m currently resting on my bed with two furry felines, magazines (New Dawn and Natural Medicine if you were wondering), journals and my laptop. I’m on a self-dictated Rest Alone Day.
I love to work – my work is so interesting, rewarding and fun! Yet I can also easily do too much of it, along with over-doing general busyness. When that occurs at the same time as back to travel, unravelling new layers of old trauma, some banging into my dear partner (for even more self-discovery of course!), parenting a teen, renegade chickens and coming down with an intense virus it’s time to put the brakes on. And here’s a thing – when I was getting a service on my car about a month ago my mechanic shared that my brakes wouldn’t last the week – they were down to the metal. There was my message.
At some faraway point in my younger years I became a ‘doer’. I thrived on the recognition (energy) that came my way when I was noticed for my writing, accuracy or being ‘good’. Teachers and bosses rewarding me gave me the pseudo-power I craved. That was short-lived, so I had to keep doing and doing. And doing. I knew no other way to feel ok about myself. Well, that’s not true actually – I knew how to be the perfect girlfriend, yet it was all externally focused. I stayed in my head or with the job or the ‘other’, avoiding myself as much as I was unconsciously capable of. My ‘being’ time happened quickly and easily with drugs, sex, food and alcohol. No more work, no more thinking – a relaxing presence, or so I thought. They work until they don’t and their accompanying side issues became a more obvious problem.
Being is a skill I have been quietly relearning over the years thanks to yogic breathing, journaling, nature, parenting and restorative yoga. I still notice the habit of keeping an outwardly focused pace up, disconnecting me from my sense of grounding. I then miss my quiet inner voice telling me what will bring harmony. That's when the louder signs kick in, like my virus letting me know I'd passed my internal stop sign.
Rest, self-parenting and being while I am doing like the yogis do – that’s what I will be practicing on the extended summer break I am gifting myself in one weeks’ time.
Here are some tips you might find helpful:
Regularly check in to see what your physical body is needing before pain or illness demands a more permanent full stop. Is it rest, sleep, water, particular food, vitamins, touch, exercise, fresh air, sunshine, or something else?
Give yourself time to feel your emotions rather than doing to avoid them. That release of pent up energy brings lightness of being.
Witness the quality of your thinking. Scattered, busy minds need soothing. Breathe, become present, slow down. This will bring more being to your doing.
Care for your spirit. Nature, sunshine, beauty, prayer, meditation and gratitude can all help you remember the authentic you that too easily gets forgotten.
Wishing you balance in your being and doing.
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We come into this human package as wise souls on a mission to learn, grow and serve. Our life-plan WILL include trauma. Trauma isn’t always the obvious. Depending on our sensitivity levels and our past experiences we will have varying degrees of distress and dissociation due to an array of experiences. An ice cream falling off its cone when you’re 4yo could bring sadness, anger, shame, shock or something else – depending on the person, players and scenario.
Everything that happens to us is part of our plan. On a soul level we want the difficult stuff – the feelings of loneliness, the parents who weren’t present, the bullying, the addictions etc. so we can learn about self-love and acceptance, as well as develop compassion for others via our own experiences. There are opportunities to grow from everything that happens to us.
Our past shapes how we function in the world today. When we have made peace with our past challenges, we experience greater happiness, easier relating, more success and greater freedom in our lives. Lessons are being learnt!
Knowing, from a spiritual perspective, that we are in an earth play doesn’t heal our history. It certainly helps our mental understanding yet it doesn’t heal the physical or emotional body. It also doesn’t ‘fix’ rigid beliefs we’ve taken on in the name of protection.
To truly heal we must allow ourselves to feel our suppressed emotions, to make peace with the feeling of shame that tells us there is something wrong with or very nature and we must forgive ourselves and others. These are the lessons our spirits want to learn. Spiritual savvy is a must for real healing. Without faith in Divine Intelligence it’s hard to forgive some stuff. If you don’t already, consider the idea that there's a greater intelligence than your own.
Here are some ways we can tell that we haven’t made peace with old hurts:
If you’re feeling stuck with any of the above consider going deeper to discover what isn’t conscious that might be holding you back. Our traumas need our loving attention so we can release:
Bringing harmony to discordancy will always affect us in positive ways. Loving our traumatised younger self is profound in how it changes our lives. Relationships become easier, we attract greater successes, we are more creative and we become healthier on every level.
Listen to your inner knowing, hear your spiritual guidance, seek out wise and experienced healers/friends/therapists, dialogue with younger aspects of yourself, journal and pray for help. There is so much seen and unseen support for us to grow, evolve and learn to truly love ourselves.
Wishing you peace
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"This is global change at work. It truly is awesome in the real sense of that word."
New Zealand recently experienced a devastating and terrifying event in Christchurch that became world news. One person, fuelled by hate, acted out the thoughts and feelings of many which resulted in over one hundred people either dead or injured. Such intense feelings and actions are rooted in fear and ignorance. To heal fear we must love as it is Love that can contain and dissolve fear. Ignorance has it's own timeline. It needs loving and gentle education.
In the aftermath of the nation's shock many people felt deep sadness, grief, anger and fear. We also felt Love. Humanity has a way to go before everyone knows the truth – we are all one. The shift to a greater coming together of all people, I believe, has intensified since this event. People are experiencing their hearts opening and they are realising that truth.
Those amazing people who lost their lives are bringing people who are ready the most wonderful gifts that are still unfolding, and will be for a long, long time. When we grieve our hearts open. This can get us in touch with unhealed issues we are holding within such as our own racism and separation issues. Healing conversations are being had around these life-changing topics .
We are also seeing –
This is global change at work. It truly is awesome in the real sense of that word.
I feel deep gratitude, emotion and awe at what these people, now in spirit, are achieving. I am sending love, often, to those loved one's left behind who are in great pain.
You too can send your love and prayers where you feel drawn to.
Christchurch is hurting.
Children are scared. Adults are scared.
Trauma will be affecting all of those involved – police, ambulance officers, medical staff, witnesses, those passing by, friends and family out of town, the Muslim community world wide and on it goes.
Stay in Love, you really do have the power to change the world if you do.
As I saw today, 'Every act of love and kindness raises the vibration of the entire planet.'
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I believe we all have varying degrees of trauma. There are no perfect childhoods. Our care givers did things the only way they knew how to at the time. Their actions were based on their own history. Being human means we make mistakes and can operate unconsciously from ego, fear and conditioning. As adults our intellect can make sense of that yet understanding trauma does not heal it.
The spiritual truth that we create our lives to learn the lessons we are drawn to work on doesn't heal trauma either. It too helps us understand yet fear and deep emotion are still trapped in our physical cells causing us an array of issues.
The way we internalise events varies depending on our sensitivities and circumstances. The bottles of paint I accidentally knocked down creating a major colourful mess while helping a teacher when I was 7 is not what many would perceive as traumatic yet I was overwhelmed with emotion I didn't know how to cope with. Those less sensitive or more emotionally intelligent may have laughed and rolled with it. That experience certainly wasn't life threatening like other traumatic situations I was involved in yet it did bring about some internalised shame.
Trauma has been defined as the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one's ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. I have been working on deactivating my own wound up, deeply buried inner turmoil for many years so I have come to know the nature of trauma well.
Lately I've noticed that others are having spontaneous trauma memories appearing. It seems we are collectively ready to handle the truth of our past so we can make peace with it for a healthier, happier life.
Unhealed trauma creates –
There's more I could add to that list but you get the idea. Trauma is affecting our lives adversely and stopping us from living to our full potential.
Here's what needs to happen for healing to come about –
Trust what is occurring. Don't be annoyed that there is more to heal. Healing is a long, long journey. It isn't a few workshops and sessions, nor is it one big purge and it's all done. We have a lot to make peace with. Go gently and kindly. Life is a play; the game gets easier as we make room for more light in our body. Be brave and loving.
Wishing you gentleness on your healing journey
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I recently experienced a new memory from a long ago incident. It was the sudden and shocking type of recollection that requires time to process. I spent the week thinking, feeling, regressing, trying to not to analyse, feeling some more and gradually integrating this once buried wound.
During that week I was teaching healers how to support their clients by working with the wounded inner child. How perfect for me! They too experienced new memories, and, like myself, they were too young to recall it all and had no witnesses. The few days that followed had me encountering 3 others that also realised a partial disturbing memory.
Healers have always been called to make peace with themselves and their history. With their wisdom, experience and maturity they can now go even deeper. It takes courage and divine timing to be ready for aspects of trauma to come forward in a way that isn't intellectual. Buried feelings like shame and terror need strong holding from a support person or one's own compassionate adult self. When we are stuck in a child like memory it can be scary and ungrounding.
If you too have been triggered somehow into a past memory know this is a good thing. Your system is wanting to heal. Our nerves and tissue hold trauma, our pain and tension is usually based in unexpressed emotions from long ago.
When your higher self knows you are ready to finally process something old then memories will come. When they arrive in a way where you are feeling it physically, emotionally and energetically it can be surprising and confusing, especially when you have no recollection of the event. Don't let your bossy mind try to analyse it, it will stop you feeling and prolong the healing. I know the wanting to understand it thing, it's an easy default. Thinking isn't healing though, it blocks emotions like anger, sadness and grief.
Have the courage to feel painful emotions and be patient. Despite what you think or are told you don't need to know the whole story, regardless of how much your mind wants to understand it. Having no witnesses for past trauma can be frustrating and perplexing, yet if you are meant to know more the images and information will be come in the right time. Trust what is happening on a non intellectual level. You ARE healing.
As we release the hold on old emotions and thought patterns that no longer serve us we become more authentic, and that means a happier, easier life.
Tips for this kind of experience -
Wishing you kindness
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Sadness is an emotion that many people try to avoid. People say, "Don't be sad, it's all right." You get patted and soothed to hold your tears in. Others are uncomfortable with your sadness when they are out of touch with their own deep hurts.
Our conditioning has taught us that sadness equals weakness or is wrong. Not expressing our hurt has resulted in trapped emotion in our body. Sadness is a natural, healthy emotion. When we express it we feel clearer and more grounded.
We might think the tears will never stop if let ourselves feel. Eating, being busy, over thinking. working and controlling others can all be ways we avoid our sadness. Addictions stop you feeling your pain.
In my practise people often experience their sadness. It may be tears about what's on the surface or deeper, older crying that has been stored for years, or eons. New memories or images may come. The feelings can be intense and primal. I honour this bravery. It takes courage to allow such hurt to be felt. It's a privilege to witness. When people feel safe to feel, without being judged the healing is miraculous. The simple act of breathing, becoming present and feeling what is there is profoundly restorative.
Dense energy is being released from the body. Tightness, congestion and associated pain are leaving for good. Letting go of this heavy energy that has blocked vitality in your body is vital to wellbeing.
The very deep, guttural sobbing type of sad can have you feeling vulnerable and raw. That's ok. It's a tender place. For people who are not used to feeling vulnerable that can be unnerving. That can bring fears of being hurt or taken advantage of. The child within needs care. Sadness requires safety, during and after.
Emotional releases brings us closer to our Authentic Self. It's a beautiful, touching experience to be part of.
Support yourself, your clients and friends by allowing sadness to flow without judgement.
Wishing you courage to feel.
Here is what I know we need for true healing to occur.
To Heal –
We need to want to heal. (What do we gain by being unwell?)
We need to understand no one does healing for us.
We need to accept the lessons we are presented with.
We need our energy in present time. (Is it with other people, in the past or in the future?)
We need to be in our body.
We need to release emotion that we are holding on to.
We need to forgive others.
We need to forgive ourselves.
We need to practise healthy boundaries.
We need to make peace with our shame.
We need to communicate honestly.
We need to trust our inner knowing enough to follow it’s guidance.
We need to learn what loving our self really means and then actively practise it.
We need to be brave and courageous to understand ourselves in deep ways and to feel the challenging feelings that healing ones’ self presents.
© Dawn Grace Kelly 2015
Here is some information about the third eye chakra I have been writing today. It's another fascinating chakra! Is yours healthy?
This centre gives us the ability to visualise, imagine, think and evaluate.
It is connected to our mental body.
What’s Needed for Healing
The Solar Plexus is our personal power centre. It deals with our relationship to our self.
We first learn about relationships through the base chakra where we relate to family. At the sacral chakra we begin exploring relationships outside of family. At the sensitive solar plexus it's all about us - our relationship to our self.
When the solar plexus is congested here's what it can look like -
On the Physical Level
Anorexia and bulimia
On the Psychological Level
Over inflated ego
Issues with rejection
Susceptible to influences of others
Dependant on others
Being poorly treated
Being dominant or submissive
Concerns about how one looks
Fear of criticism
Decision making problems
Fear of taking a risk
Difficulty honouring one’s self
Some Ideas for Healing Your Solar Plexus
Releasing past habits that no longer serve you
Get support to develop your self esteem
Take care of yourself
Take responsibility for yourself
Seek support to become independent from your past
Do an energetic process to bring your power back from others
Breathe to your solar plexus
Bring yellow into your world
Work with the crystal Citrine
Become familiar with your shadow side
Contain your shadow self – don’t project your issues onto other people
Work on your boundaries
Use affirmations to reprogram your beliefs around self worth
Laugh! Taking things too seriously can make us lose power.
When we can laugh at life we loosen our energetic grip, thus holding more of our personal power
I imagine you to be familiar with the seven major chakras. These fascinating vortices of energy are part of of our multi dimensional anatomy. As a healer I'm interested in the information they store
about our history and their role in healing.
Emotional and mental energy from past experiences is encoded in our cells causing an energetic vibration to occur. All past trauma, betrayals and fears along with relationship, work, health, spiritual and creative issues become store din our tissue as a discordant vibration. These vibrations can be sensed or read by intuitives. They will appear to them as symbols, visual scenes, words or feelings depending on their abilities.
Experiences of a love vibration can also be sensed. This type of energy vitalises our cells and brings radiance to the surrounding tissue. Positive experiences of any nature make us feel more alive and vital due tot he expansion of Light and Love energy in our system.
Chakras have varying degrees of wellness. People talk about closed chakras yet they never really close as such. They can be congested with discordant energy to the point where minimal light energy can get through or it may be a minor congestion that restricts the optimal flow. This restricted flow means organs and tissues in the surrounding area of a chakra is compromised. This is how dis-ease occurs.
There have been great and not so great books written about the chakras explaining their unique nature. If it's a field you have explored you will notice contradicting information. For instance, is the pineal gland related to the third eye or the crown chakra? Is the earthy base chakra about sex or is it the passionate sacral chakra?
I'm currently writing a book about what is required for true healing to take place. It's also about my own journey as a Spiritual Healer. I'm up tot he place where i'm summarising what i have found to make sense to me in my 20 plus years of working personally and professionally with chakras as an energy intuitive and psychic. Working deeply with the chakras can bring about profound healing.
Healing congested energy centres requires loving wise support and guidance. It will take us into our history, the not so pretty parts of our history that is. The parts we like to think we have moved on from.
Unraveling our past is often challenging. Deep healing can take us into scary places. It's common to have repressed emotions in our system, feelings that were no given room to be expressed back then. I see this in almost every client and student I work with. I see it in my friends and family. I work on it constantly within myself.
This dense energy sits in our system, in our chakras and in our body. It causes physical dis-ease and pain on every level. These frozen emotions need gentle, loving holding before they begin to thaw. They are simply energy that needs to move. They may leak out gradually as sarcasm, control, blame and tension with those we care about. Or maybe they spew out as anger or rage. we may think they are about what is in front of us yet this is not the case. Our Authentic Self is loving, not blaming or angry.
With awareness we can move from unconscious slow bleeding of our old emotions over those close to close to us to conscious allowing of the release of old pain, old stuck energy.
Forgiveness is our key to real healing, true forgiveness of others that we feel have hurt or betrayed us.
Sometimes we need to grieve the past, taking time to release the sadness about what we have lost.
Ultimately forgiveness of self is required for without gracious, loving acceptance of who were and what we did int he past we cannot accept ourselves fully today - this hinders our ability to leave the past behind, to truly heal.
For a healthy body we need our power in present time, not stuck int he past holding on to resentments and hurts. is we persist with allowing our energy to stay in the past we are unconsciously allowing our systems to be devitalised in the present.
For a healthy body we need our power in present time, not stuck in the past holding on to
resentments and hurts. If we persist with allowing our energy to stay in the past we are
unconsciously allowing our systems to be devitalised in the present.
Did you know that not holding on to your personal power or sexual trauma can bring about problems with your lower intestines, hips, womb or sacrum?
What about when we don't feel safe or secure? This can bring a lack of grounding, making our legs to feel heavy and bring fatigue and anxiety. Feeling of guilt stir the solar plexus and can affect our digestive system.
The heart chakra stores our issues to do with love, forgiveness and grief amongst other things. grief that has not been expressed over time will affect the body physically in that area. heart attacks, breast cancer and lung disorders are all serious manifestations of holding on to the past in these areas.
And so, with some loving support and guidance from your own Higher Self or a knowledgeable healer you can heal whatever you are truly ready for.
O, and by the way, the pineal gland is actually vitalised by the third eye chakr and sexual issues
can affect us in the base and the sacral centre depending on their nature.
By taking our awareness into our chakras we can find the root of any issue. This is where real healing can occur.
By taking our awareness into our chakras we can find the root of any issue.
This where real healing can occur.
By understanding the chakras and being brave enough to explore a little deeper health and
happiness can be yours for keeps!
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