Our busy thinking mind likes to take control of all the jobs, and we allow it out of habit. We do need to plan, use logic and think, yet we really are habituated thinkers that often overuse the mind (conditioning from our mainstream education.) It gets used to making decisions about the past, present and future, to analyse all number of things to the point of rumination, as well as to worry about what might happen and create fear stories based on the past. This can all lead to feelings of confusion and even depression (which I see as an over-thinking issue)
Rollin McCraty Ph.D., one of the original founders of Heartmath, said, “The biggest hidden source of stress on the planet is the disorganization of heart/mind, causing lack of resonance. Lack of alignment eats the life force and happiness out of humanity.”
All of this thought activity is draining and often exhausting. Most importantly it has us disconnected from our heart intelligence.
Here’s what happens when you are disconnected from your heart:
When we are connected to the heart we are in touch with our authentic self. From this place we can easily make decisions and choices intuitively. We know how to move forward without confusion. We can access the wisdom of our body and respond to it’s needs. We are more present and grounded. Our system is calmer. We feel happier and have greater peace. This is all the good stuff!
Let’s take a few minutes to get heart connected now.
Ahh, that’s better isn’t it? It certainly is for me. I feel ease and a sense of slowing down. May we all have a greater connection to the intelligence of our heart. As more of us do this greater peace ripples all over this beautiful planet we reside on.
Wishing you heart connection.
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Wondering what the right decision to make is?
You might have been told, "Just trust your intuition." So you sit still and listen. No answers come and you still don't know. Now you're worrying that your inner knowing is not accessible or you're way too ungrounded to get to this place of infinite wisdom. Then you're growling at yourself for not having it more together. You're over it, not knowing what to do is tiring you, you want certainty and you want it now! So you power forward by thinking you're taking control of wishy washy you, and Bang. Decision has happened. No more feeling bad about not knowing, but, was it the right choice for you?
Here's some info I think is super helpful -
Trusting our intuition isn't an instant guarantee for the right answer about what choice to make. Our egocentric human need for certainty can tromp all over a quiet inner feeling that we need to pause, reflect or gather more information.
Brene Brown has told me (not over a cuppa but through her book The Gifts of Imperfection) that "When we just want to get the decision making over with it's a good idea to ask ourselves whether we simply cant stand the vulnerability of being still long enough to think it through and make a mindful decision."
Our intuition isn't always about getting internal answers, it can be telling us we don't know enough to be able to do that. Here's the definition Brene came up with about intuition after her research.
"Intuition is not a single way of knowing - it's our ability to hold space for uncertainty and our willingness to trust the many ways we've developed knowledge and insight, including instinct, experience, faith and reason."
Fear of not knowing can sabotage that quiet inner voice. It can have us asking others for their opinions. Brene says she has now noticed when she starts "polling people" about what they think that it's a red flag that she's feeling vulnerable about making a decision and is disconnected from her inner voice. It can also disempower us as some people feel a need to take control when we do this.
Listen carefully to yourself, sometimes the message from deep within is not to do anything just yet, to have no answer. Gather the information you need, trust Divine timing, allow some time for silence and practise being ok with not knowing, at least for now. Have faith, it's a big call and it feels way stronger than fear.
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