I believe we all have varying degrees of trauma. There are no perfect childhoods. Our care givers did things the only way they knew how to at the time. Their actions were based on their own history. Being human means we make mistakes and can operate unconsciously from ego, fear and conditioning. As adults our intellect can make sense of that yet understanding trauma does not heal it.
The spiritual truth that we create our lives to learn the lessons we are drawn to work on doesn't heal trauma either. It too helps us understand yet fear and deep emotion are still trapped in our physical cells causing us an array of issues.
The way we internalise events varies depending on our sensitivities and circumstances. The bottles of paint I accidentally knocked down creating a major colourful mess while helping a teacher when I was 7 is not what many would perceive as traumatic yet I was overwhelmed with emotion I didn't know how to cope with. Those less sensitive or more emotionally intelligent may have laughed and rolled with it. That experience certainly wasn't life threatening like other traumatic situations I was involved in yet it did bring about some internalised shame.
Trauma has been defined as the result of an overwhelming amount of stress that exceeds one's ability to cope, or integrate the emotions involved with that experience. I have been working on deactivating my own wound up, deeply buried inner turmoil for many years so I have come to know the nature of trauma well.
Lately I've noticed that others are having spontaneous trauma memories appearing. It seems we are collectively ready to handle the truth of our past so we can make peace with it for a healthier, happier life.
Unhealed trauma creates –
There's more I could add to that list but you get the idea. Trauma is affecting our lives adversely and stopping us from living to our full potential.
Here's what needs to happen for healing to come about –
Trust what is occurring. Don't be annoyed that there is more to heal. Healing is a long, long journey. It isn't a few workshops and sessions, nor is it one big purge and it's all done. We have a lot to make peace with. Go gently and kindly. Life is a play; the game gets easier as we make room for more light in our body. Be brave and loving.
Wishing you gentleness on your healing journey
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I recently experienced a new memory from a long ago incident. It was the sudden and shocking type of recollection that requires time to process. I spent the week thinking, feeling, regressing, trying to not to analyse, feeling some more and gradually integrating this once buried wound.
During that week I was teaching healers how to support their clients by working with the wounded inner child. How perfect for me! They too experienced new memories, and, like myself, they were too young to recall it all and had no witnesses. The few days that followed had me encountering 3 others that also realised a partial disturbing memory.
Healers have always been called to make peace with themselves and their history. With their wisdom, experience and maturity they can now go even deeper. It takes courage and divine timing to be ready for aspects of trauma to come forward in a way that isn't intellectual. Buried feelings like shame and terror need strong holding from a support person or one's own compassionate adult self. When we are stuck in a child like memory it can be scary and ungrounding.
If you too have been triggered somehow into a past memory know this is a good thing. Your system is wanting to heal. Our nerves and tissue hold trauma, our pain and tension is usually based in unexpressed emotions from long ago.
When your higher self knows you are ready to finally process something old then memories will come. When they arrive in a way where you are feeling it physically, emotionally and energetically it can be surprising and confusing, especially when you have no recollection of the event. Don't let your bossy mind try to analyse it, it will stop you feeling and prolong the healing. I know the wanting to understand it thing, it's an easy default. Thinking isn't healing though, it blocks emotions like anger, sadness and grief.
Have the courage to feel painful emotions and be patient. Despite what you think or are told you don't need to know the whole story, regardless of how much your mind wants to understand it. Having no witnesses for past trauma can be frustrating and perplexing, yet if you are meant to know more the images and information will be come in the right time. Trust what is happening on a non intellectual level. You ARE healing.
As we release the hold on old emotions and thought patterns that no longer serve us we become more authentic, and that means a happier, easier life.
Tips for this kind of experience -
Wishing you kindness
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Sadness is an emotion that many people try to avoid. People say, "Don't be sad, it's all right." You get patted and soothed to hold your tears in. Others are uncomfortable with your sadness when they are out of touch with their own deep hurts.
Our conditioning has taught us that sadness equals weakness or is wrong. Not expressing our hurt has resulted in trapped emotion in our body. Sadness is a natural, healthy emotion. When we express it we feel clearer and more grounded.
We might think the tears will never stop if let ourselves feel. Eating, being busy, over thinking. working and controlling others can all be ways we avoid our sadness. Addictions stop you feeling your pain.
In my practise people often experience their sadness. It may be tears about what's on the surface or deeper, older crying that has been stored for years, or eons. New memories or images may come. The feelings can be intense and primal. I honour this bravery. It takes courage to allow such hurt to be felt. It's a privilege to witness. When people feel safe to feel, without being judged the healing is miraculous. The simple act of breathing, becoming present and feeling what is there is profoundly restorative.
Dense energy is being released from the body. Tightness, congestion and associated pain are leaving for good. Letting go of this heavy energy that has blocked vitality in your body is vital to wellbeing.
The very deep, guttural sobbing type of sad can have you feeling vulnerable and raw. That's ok. It's a tender place. For people who are not used to feeling vulnerable that can be unnerving. That can bring fears of being hurt or taken advantage of. The child within needs care. Sadness requires safety, during and after.
Emotional releases brings us closer to our Authentic Self. It's a beautiful, touching experience to be part of.
Support yourself, your clients and friends by allowing sadness to flow without judgement.
Wishing you courage to feel.
Here is what I know we need for true healing to occur.
To Heal –
We need to want to heal. (What do we gain by being unwell?)
We need to understand no one does healing for us.
We need to accept the lessons we are presented with.
We need our energy in present time. (Is it with other people, in the past or in the future?)
We need to be in our body.
We need to release emotion that we are holding on to.
We need to forgive others.
We need to forgive ourselves.
We need to practise healthy boundaries.
We need to make peace with our shame.
We need to communicate honestly.
We need to trust our inner knowing enough to follow it’s guidance.
We need to learn what loving our self really means and then actively practise it.
We need to be brave and courageous to understand ourselves in deep ways and to feel the challenging feelings that healing ones’ self presents.
© Dawn Grace Kelly 2015
Here is some information about the third eye chakra I have been writing today. It's another fascinating chakra! Is yours healthy?
This centre gives us the ability to visualise, imagine, think and evaluate.
It is connected to our mental body.
What’s Needed for Healing
The Solar Plexus is our personal power centre. It deals with our relationship to our self.
We first learn about relationships through the base chakra where we relate to family. At the sacral chakra we begin exploring relationships outside of family. At the sensitive solar plexus it's all about us - our relationship to our self.
When the solar plexus is congested here's what it can look like -
On the Physical Level
Anorexia and bulimia
On the Psychological Level
Over inflated ego
Issues with rejection
Susceptible to influences of others
Dependant on others
Being poorly treated
Being dominant or submissive
Concerns about how one looks
Fear of criticism
Decision making problems
Fear of taking a risk
Difficulty honouring one’s self
Some Ideas for Healing Your Solar Plexus
Releasing past habits that no longer serve you
Get support to develop your self esteem
Take care of yourself
Take responsibility for yourself
Seek support to become independent from your past
Do an energetic process to bring your power back from others
Breathe to your solar plexus
Bring yellow into your world
Work with the crystal Citrine
Become familiar with your shadow side
Contain your shadow self – don’t project your issues onto other people
Work on your boundaries
Use affirmations to reprogram your beliefs around self worth
Laugh! Taking things too seriously can make us lose power.
When we can laugh at life we loosen our energetic grip, thus holding more of our personal power
I imagine you to be familiar with the seven major chakras. These fascinating vortices of energy are part of of our multi dimensional anatomy. As a healer I'm interested in the information they store
about our history and their role in healing.
Emotional and mental energy from past experiences is encoded in our cells causing an energetic vibration to occur. All past trauma, betrayals and fears along with relationship, work, health, spiritual and creative issues become store din our tissue as a discordant vibration. These vibrations can be sensed or read by intuitives. They will appear to them as symbols, visual scenes, words or feelings depending on their abilities.
Experiences of a love vibration can also be sensed. This type of energy vitalises our cells and brings radiance to the surrounding tissue. Positive experiences of any nature make us feel more alive and vital due tot he expansion of Light and Love energy in our system.
Chakras have varying degrees of wellness. People talk about closed chakras yet they never really close as such. They can be congested with discordant energy to the point where minimal light energy can get through or it may be a minor congestion that restricts the optimal flow. This restricted flow means organs and tissues in the surrounding area of a chakra is compromised. This is how dis-ease occurs.
There have been great and not so great books written about the chakras explaining their unique nature. If it's a field you have explored you will notice contradicting information. For instance, is the pineal gland related to the third eye or the crown chakra? Is the earthy base chakra about sex or is it the passionate sacral chakra?
I'm currently writing a book about what is required for true healing to take place. It's also about my own journey as a Spiritual Healer. I'm up tot he place where i'm summarising what i have found to make sense to me in my 20 plus years of working personally and professionally with chakras as an energy intuitive and psychic. Working deeply with the chakras can bring about profound healing.
Healing congested energy centres requires loving wise support and guidance. It will take us into our history, the not so pretty parts of our history that is. The parts we like to think we have moved on from.
Unraveling our past is often challenging. Deep healing can take us into scary places. It's common to have repressed emotions in our system, feelings that were no given room to be expressed back then. I see this in almost every client and student I work with. I see it in my friends and family. I work on it constantly within myself.
This dense energy sits in our system, in our chakras and in our body. It causes physical dis-ease and pain on every level. These frozen emotions need gentle, loving holding before they begin to thaw. They are simply energy that needs to move. They may leak out gradually as sarcasm, control, blame and tension with those we care about. Or maybe they spew out as anger or rage. we may think they are about what is in front of us yet this is not the case. Our Authentic Self is loving, not blaming or angry.
With awareness we can move from unconscious slow bleeding of our old emotions over those close to close to us to conscious allowing of the release of old pain, old stuck energy.
Forgiveness is our key to real healing, true forgiveness of others that we feel have hurt or betrayed us.
Sometimes we need to grieve the past, taking time to release the sadness about what we have lost.
Ultimately forgiveness of self is required for without gracious, loving acceptance of who were and what we did int he past we cannot accept ourselves fully today - this hinders our ability to leave the past behind, to truly heal.
For a healthy body we need our power in present time, not stuck int he past holding on to resentments and hurts. is we persist with allowing our energy to stay in the past we are unconsciously allowing our systems to be devitalised in the present.
For a healthy body we need our power in present time, not stuck in the past holding on to
resentments and hurts. If we persist with allowing our energy to stay in the past we are
unconsciously allowing our systems to be devitalised in the present.
Did you know that not holding on to your personal power or sexual trauma can bring about problems with your lower intestines, hips, womb or sacrum?
What about when we don't feel safe or secure? This can bring a lack of grounding, making our legs to feel heavy and bring fatigue and anxiety. Feeling of guilt stir the solar plexus and can affect our digestive system.
The heart chakra stores our issues to do with love, forgiveness and grief amongst other things. grief that has not been expressed over time will affect the body physically in that area. heart attacks, breast cancer and lung disorders are all serious manifestations of holding on to the past in these areas.
And so, with some loving support and guidance from your own Higher Self or a knowledgeable healer you can heal whatever you are truly ready for.
O, and by the way, the pineal gland is actually vitalised by the third eye chakr and sexual issues
can affect us in the base and the sacral centre depending on their nature.
By taking our awareness into our chakras we can find the root of any issue. This is where real healing can occur.
By taking our awareness into our chakras we can find the root of any issue.
This where real healing can occur.
By understanding the chakras and being brave enough to explore a little deeper health and
happiness can be yours for keeps!